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July 10, 2015

Divorce.

Oh, hello. It's been awhile. Welcome back!

It's safe to say you've found yourself reading this because your curiosity is just about KILLING you. It's okay, just admit it you cheeky bastard! Chances are you've already asked your best friend's ex- step brother's cousin if they know WTF is going on with Katie and MVP. 

If you know me personally (which means well enough to stalk me on instagram, FB, twitter, and for Pete's sake google) then you are well aware that I've been on a freaking long ass 8 month hiatus from the WORLD.

...and if you're not here for those reasons...well, today is a good day to stumble across my blog. 

Well let's cut the crap and get to what you REALLY came here for. 

Warning: you won't *exactly* get to fill your gossipy tank just yet. Details will probably never make it to your pretty pierced ears so proceed with caution if you're looking for more. 
Eh...details schmetails. 

Yes, unfortunately the rumors are true...MVP and I are not together anymore. 
Yes, that means the D word: DIVORCE. 

Gulp. 

Look. 
Whether you actually know me or you only know the cyber Katie...it's a very sensitive and personal story. Perhaps buy me a cocktail (or 7...kidding!) or continue to ask your best friend's ex step brother's cousin for a fabricated story of what happened...but on such a public platform, it AIN'T happening. Purely out of respect.  

Ireland is doing well, that little peach of mine. She has parents, friends, and family who love her dearly and I can't thank those enough who have helped us out during this time. She continues to brighten my world and I know we both are incredibly thankful for her.

...and how am I doing, you ask? 
 I've been putting my big girl panties on every single sunrise to face reality. 
Life. Goes. On. Right?
Here's the deal...we get to choose how long we stay in the hurt, the confusion, the war.
The victim card is destructive. Divorce is second on the list of the most stressful things to go through. I'm certain we both can vouch for that. But it doesn't have to define us, make us bitter, or cause hatred.  Love is always the answer. Always. 
All involved will be okay, including myself, my daughter, MVP, our families, friends, and even YOU who may be a little shocked. I'm finding a whole new freedom in not arguing with reality and loving what is and THAT is something to celebrate. 
Adopt the same mentality and thank me later. 
  
Truly, God is going to continue to stretch us in ways unimaginable…that has already been revealed to me.
So as I appreciate your genuine apologies for all this...don't waste it. Just be patient with me and join me in continuing the learning and growing process. If I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, I'm certain you can, too. Resist the urge to know more, to judge, to blame, to pick sides, to gossip, and the "shoulds". 

Yuck...the dreaded should word has been removed from my vocabulary. Do yourself a favor and remove all shoulds from your life. Why? Because you're subconsciously setting crazy expectations in your life that are truly robbing you of the present. 

Just. be. you. and present. 

Wondering what to say to he and I? 
Just love on us.
Both of us. 

Don't act like nothing happened, that is the worst. 

As for myself?
Meet me here.
Pray for me. 
Laugh with me.
Don't go silent.
Be patient.
...and be yourself!

Although some days are really dark, I'm choosing to celebrate all the wonderful things MVP and I shared. It was a great life, one that I will cherish forever. It's normal to need reminders but I intentionally choose joy over fear and love over disappointment. I can't think of any greater piece of wisdom to teach my daughter. 

:::insert big ass savasana breathe here:::

Stay tuned! I'm a few chapters deep into my new life but I welcome you to join me from this day forward. I only hope I can be a graceful flowing fountain of resource, hope, and encouragement to seek peace and love inwardly, no matter the storm. 

cheek kisses and hugs, 
kates

ps: 
What do you think of the new blog design?! Take a walk around the new pages and know you are most welcome in my space. 

Also, I'm keeping ALL the previous posts. It's my story and pretending it never happened is the last thing on my agenda. 

:]


15 comments

  1. LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this. Thanks for sharing, you have certainly been missed around these parts! You are such a breath of fresh air, Katie!

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    1. Thank you for your kind words and thank you for reading. It was a wonderful warm welcome back "home". Xo!

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  2. My favorite little nymph is back... <3

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  3. I love that you said you're not pretending like the life you had a few months ago didn't exist. I think that's a huge mistake people make, blocking out the past and cutting all reminders out -- which really hinders the healing process. I'm proud of you. For your strength, transparency, and maintains a sense of humor through it all. Hugs.

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    1. First, thanks for reading and walking this journey with me. With out that, my purpose would feel unfulfilled. So THANKS! Second, our first reaction is to run and forget. But why? We don't REALLY want that. What feels best is celebrating and learning and accepting. Doin so provides freedom and space to improve. Thank you for your time and I hope you continue to meet me here! ❤️

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  4. I love that you're being honest and not just painting over what happened. It's refreshing in a world of staged photos and staged lifestyles. I'm so glad you're doing well & I'll be praying for the new life you're embarking on!

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    1. Sweet girl, thank you for reading and taking the time to comment. I appreciate you meeting me right where I am at. It's easy to live a staged life...were taught that. It comes from a place of fear and acceptance. It doesn't mean I don't fight those feelings...I'm just trying to live a life of authenticity...a life of freedom. Thank you!

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  5. You have been greatly missed. I am praying for you and sweet Ireland.

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  6. Hi Dana! Nice to hear from you again. Considering I don't know you personally, I've always felt your warmness towards me. And, I thank you for offering that. ❤️ Let's dive in again!

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    1. I just saw this sweet Katie and I really enjoyed our few chats and I am here anytime you need to talk and I don't mean about the D-word ,I mean about anything.I have learned as a new follower of our Lord that its ok to say I love you to someone you have never met in real life and so I love you and that precious baby.Take care.

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  7. You are so strong, just remember you have your little cup of joy with your sweet daughter! The greatest joy in life is watching our sweet children explore the world with wide eyes and big smiles on their faces.

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  8. So proud of you Katie! This takes so much more courage than people can even imagine and you have done it so gracefully. I've always loved and followed your blog because I love the realness in everything you write and I think that you are one of the most genuine people I've ever come across. I'll keep praying for you and Iley because at the end of the day I think that everyone needs prayers. However, you my dear, have already come out of this with more strength, courage and grace than I ever thought was possible. So cheers to you, your new beginning and your beautiful perspective on life. Next time I see you, those 7 drinks you specifically requested are on me and we'll celebrate this often challenging yet insanely awesome life that we've been given. Xoxo, Ana

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  9. Welcome back! and thank you for sharing. I honestly have read this a few times before to comment. I think you are so brave. You are so right, it is such a sensitive subject, and for you to be letting all of us in on it- even just a tiny glimpse. I know it sounds weird but just almost listening to your words as I read them, I smiled. Not because of the situation of course, but because your words made me feel better. Your words were just so genuine and real, and it made me reflect on my situation and how I have handled it.
    Cheers to your new beginning, and cant wait to see whats next!
    Xx Molly

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  10. I am SO happy to have you back out *here* with me and yet my heart hurts thinking of the circumstances. I am truly in awe of your ability to be honest and raw and let us follow along the peaks and pitfalls of this journey called life (no matter how crazy and fucked up it gets). I will surely be following along and all the while admiring your strength and resilience while you mother the most adorable and spunky little girl!

    Sending lots of love from the east coast.
    xo

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